The first time I became aware of circumcision was when I was seven and I saw my Mom changing my newborn cousin's diaper. I asked her why his penis was so red. Although I don't remember her answer, it must not have satisfied my curiosity because I remember asking again. I remember that her second response contained a hint of annoyance. Maybe questioning this societal norm caused the slightest bit of doubt in my Mom's mind.
In fifth grade after "family life" (a fancy name for sex ed), on the bus ride home, I asked my best friend a question out of curiosity (although I could only get up enough nerve to spell the word): "Are you C-I-R-C..." Before I finished what was a painfully awkward question, he answered "no." I sat in stunned silence. I didn't know what to make of it. I thought to myself, "well, why not?" Like many kids this age, I wanted my best friend to be just like me. I couldn't help but think that there was more to it than the "hygenic reasons" rhetoric used to justify circumcision back then.
In high school, one of the things I feared was being made fun of in the showers for having only one testicle. The doctors went in to bring down an apparent undescended testicle only to find it dead and undeveloped (possible in-utero torsion or other birth defect) necessitating its removal. I was never made fun of for this and no-one ever mentioned it to me.
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As I got older, I began listening to talk radio. In college, I started listening to Dr. Dean Edell's radio show. He talked about circumcision on a regular basis. This is when I started thinking seriously about it. Although I had never been comfortable with circumcision, it wasn't until Dr. Dean Edell's rants that I had evidence and support to justify my discomfort. Dr. Edell mentioned two websites: National Organization of Circumcision Information Resource Centers and Foreskin.
At the childbirth education class preparing for our first son's birth, the instructor mentioned that the circumcision segment of the class would be next. I was anxious about this whole segment and my emotions were running high. The instructor started the circumcision segment of the class by asking if there were any reasons not to circumcise. I spoke up physically shaking with nervousness, and through quavering voice, entered into rant against circumcision covering the issues from ethical to harm to sexual function to the fact that I hate what was taken from me. I was completely surprised, thankful, and comforted by the instructor's complete agreement with what I had said. When she passed around the various mutilation devices used for the procedure, I passed them by without even looking at them. The instructor argued against it circumcision and backed up the statements I made as well as providing additional information. She recited a story about how she went along with circumcision for her first son when the nurses asked her while she was still delirious from pain medicine. Later, she thought about the issue and left her other sons intact. She now speaks out against circumcision at all the childbirth education classes she teaches. Although she is a nurse, she refuses to participate in the procedure at the hospital. After that class, a woman sitting next to my wife and I thanked me for my bravery at speaking out and indicated that if she and her husband were having a boy instead of a girl that they would leave him intact.
Earlier this year, I started taking an active role in the community on Twitter which has proven to be a tremendous opportunity and a source of frustration. The Twitter community serves as both a support group and a means to get the message out; I suspect it's more successful in the former capacity. It is extremely difficult to change an entire society's view on an issue that has been part of culture for many years: culture is one of the hardest things to change.
Although I believe I may have influenced relatives to keep their boy intact, it is an uneasy outcome as their boy recently had a UTI and the husband is urging to have him cut. My influence is limited.
I have a great number of regrets due to my failure to properly influence friends, family members, and co-workers to follow the right side of this issue. In some cases, my emotions got in the way and my message was not delivered effectively. In other cases, the audience was just plain not receptive and no amount of convincing would have worked. Still other cases are the result of me not speaking up when I should have. I know the outcomes of some cases and not others. Unless the outcome is to leave the child intact, I'd rather not know.
I strive to find my place both in the I2 community and to find the most effective ways to influence friends, family, and co-workers.